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in the businesse of marriage: For of all acts of disobedience thae of marrying against the consent of Parents, is one of the highest. For(as a late Axihor well observes) Children are so much the goods & poßeßions of their parents that ihey cannot (wirbout a kind of theft)giveaway themselves wishout the allowance of those that have soch a right in them. And therefore we fee under the Law, the Mail that had made any vow, was not suffered to perforo it without the consent of her parent, Numb.30.5. The right of the Parent was thought of force enough to cancell and make void che obligationes ven
of a vow ; and therefore surely it ought to be so much considered by Children, as to keep them from making any Contract whereby chat right is infringed,
III. Gratitude and Thankfulnesse , which they must exprefle,
1. In a hearly affectionate acknowledgment i their love and care over them. Cercainly the Children thac duly weigh, how their parent
. have been the Instruments under God, not en of bringing them into the world, buc of(uftciais and supporting them after, and do furcher cor der the cares and fears that go to the bringing of a child, will judge, chac thankfulnese is but moderate return for so great benefits.
2. In miniftring to their neceffities of what kir foever ; whether weaknes or sickneß of body, cayednese of understanding, poveriy and lowe:
of estate: In all these cases the child is bound according to his ability, to relieve and help his par rents ; and thereby (as much as in him lies) to recompence their care, love, and kindnes towards him. As his Parent bare with him when a child, so he must bear with his parent, though froward, and twice a Child; and though God should raise him in dignity above him, yet that must not cancel bis Duty towards him, nor make him ( with some base disposition'd and wicked Children) Alhamed to own him. In Gen.4 712. we find that wealthy Joseph nourished his Father and Brethren in want; and che fame duty the Apostle enjoyns, 1 Tim.5.4. But if any widow have children or nephews, let them learn first 10 fherr Piety at home, and to requite their parents ; for that is good and acceptable before God. And our Saviour himself when he left this world, commended his Mother to the care of his Beloved Disciple, Foh. 19.26,27.
There is one thing more, (which I may couch under this Head) wherein such children as are really good and traly religious theinselves, may exprese a high degree of Gratitude, if the case Jole ( as it fometimes happens ) chat their parents ire as yet unacquainted with, or negligent of the great concernments of their fouls, Now in such a afe as this; What a high office of filial Duty is it, or a child in a wife and humble manner. to infinute into his parent such things as may (with
the blessing of God) tend to his everlafting wel. fare ; and
so be an instrument of his new birth, who (under God) gave him his first birth and being in this world! This is a Duty wherein fome Children should take themselves more concern'd, than usually they do.
3. In praying for them. The debt Children pwe to their Parents is so great, that they being not able so satisfie ie themselves, chey ought ca nestly to beg of the Lord, that he would pleafe co recompence it) by multiplying his Graces in them and his blessings both piritual and tempor al apex them, and co require their care and love a chou. fand fold into their bosoms,
4. In covering their infirmities. 'Tis the Dwty, and will be the endeavour of good and ingenuous children, co cover and conceal the infirmities of their Parents (with Shem and Fapher) and not with cursed Chem to publish, and disclose them, Gen.9.23. How detestable is ic for Children to deride and scoffe at the infirmitics of their Pá
5. And lastly, By imitating their good exam. ple. Whacever wis good, virtuous, and com. mendable in their parents, lec Children imitate: But their vices and miscarriages let them declise, and not entail them on their posterity. Let tbem remember what a dismal found is in those words, Feroboam the son of Nebat poho made Ifrael to fin,
2 King. 3.3:
There are two great Motives to presse Children to a careful-observance of these things.
1. 'Tis right and just, and that which should a be, Eph 6.1. And 'tis well.pleasing to the Lord, * Col.3.20. 1"
2. It has a promise of reward, Eph.6.2,3. Ho( nour thy Father and mother prohich is the first Commandment with promise ) -ebat it may
be well with thee, and that thou maisi live long on the carth. The words in Exod. 10.12. may be rendred, Honour thy Father and thy Mother, that they (viz. By their prayers ) may prolong the daies: Parents prayers are great blessings co-chil. dren. And further consider what Solomon saith, Prov. 10. 27. The fear of the Lord prolongeth dales. And Godlinese bath rbe promise of this life, and that which is to come, I Tim. 4.8. If God take away some good and dutiful children betimes out of this life, they are no losers by it.
For God is better to them than his promise :. In the stead of a long lease in this life, he gives them
prefent palession of a free-bold of much better va-
things', for this is well-pleasing unto the
for this is right.
is the first Commandment with promije. V.3. That it may be well with thee, and tbek
maist live long on the earth. Prov.23.22. Hearken unto thy. Fat ber that begat
thee. and despise not thy mother when she is Prov. 1,8. My San hear the Instruction of the F& ! ther, and forsake not the Law of thy Mot ber. : V:9. For they shall be an Ornament of Grace un
to shine Head, and chains aboat thy neck. Luke 2.51. And be, went dopn with a bem, and
came ta Nazareth, and was fubjekt unto them. Heb.12.7. If ye endure chafining , God dealetb
wish you as with Sons, for what foon is be, wbom the Father chafteneth not?. V. 9. Furthermore we have bad Fathers of om -1 flesh, which corrected us, and we gave i kemareverenice; shall pe mal much more be in subjecti
. 08 unto the Father of Spirits, and lives Mal. 1.6. A son banowerb his Farber , and a ser:
Want bis Master: If I then be a Father, where is mine høngør? and if I be a Master, wbere is
my fear? saith the Lord of Hofts, &c. i King.2.19. Balbsheba therefore went unto King
Solomon, to speak uxto him for Adonijah, and
The King role 2 to meet her, and bowed himself Ge0.27.34. And when, Esau heard the words of
bis Faiber, he cried with a great and exceeding boiler fry, and f4id sapato his Farber, blefle ope,